Be your own superhero with self-accountability
One of my favorite things to do on a weekend is to walk along the beach whilst listening to podcasts. It is my time to connect to myself and a great way to learn. My all-time favorite podcasts are Emma Holmes – Rockstar Rebellion and Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday closer followed by Oprah’s new podcast called Master Classes.
“Stock pile is the term used when our bodies say I cannot hold on anymore I can’t do this anymore – amongst other things anxiety and depression hits us – The body keeps score and always wins” – Brene Brown
When I heard Brene say the above it really resonated with me and made me think about my own health and wellbeing journey. Over the years I have not paid enough attention to my body. It is one my biggest challenges to date. Yes, I have lost weight but not in a healthy way, had relationships where I put others before myself being the ultimate people pleaser to the cost of my own health.
I thought about how I got to where I am today and what I could do to make it better. I also spent time feeling and sending gratitude to my mind and body for supporting me all these years.
Back at the beginning of 2018 I focused on my mental health having had another period of anxiety and depression I felt my world was falling apart. A few months later my then romantic relationship came under the spotlight. I had come to a crossroads where I could either give up or choose to save myself! I chose to be my own super hero.
It is very easy for us to get into a habit of giving away our power (to the point in my case where I did not know who I was or what I wanted to be). I had sought other, people’s approval over my own.
Our limiting beliefs hold us back from becoming the person we are meant to be. We all have a purpose here. We put thoughts in our head that we will do X on a certain date or at a certain time. I am here to tell you that you don’t need to wait until X date because you have the choice to take back your power in a second! Imagine that – your next thought will start a chain reaction of changes. Now I have spoken about making change before and I used to be the hare and go at 0-60mph and then run out of steam 2-3 weeks later.
These days, I take the approach of the tortoise, I set my main goal and break it down into small manageable steps. I have learnt and grown more personally and professionally in the last 5 months than at any other time in my life. This is because I had made my actions simple and consistent.
Now I could worry about what I have not done or what I could have done, and I would be lying if I say that those questions didn’t cross my mind – they did! The difference though was I did not hang on to them. As quick as they came I let them go again. Staying in a destructive thought pattern will keep you stuck. It will mean that you choose to make unwise food choices, don’t start exercising, sabotage your efforts with the negative self-talk. Trust me I have been there and worn the t-shirt!
All my life I had a reason or excuse. What I have come to realise through therapy is that I needed to heal on a deeper level by getting to know myself first. I have said it before but the relationship we have with ourselves is the one that benchmarks all of our other relationships. I have personally learnt that I need to love myself before anyone can love me. By loving me I will draw the right people to me. I know that I have a lot of work ahead of me by I am ready for the challenge of full and lasting recovery.
I am learning to live more in the present moment and looking at what I can do today to move myself forward to my end goal. This second half of the year I am turning my attention to my physical wellbeing as well as continuing the great mindset work.
Now, I am going to get raw here…. We have two choice we accept responsibility for our own thoughts and actions or ignore them and continue doing what we have always done and by doing so in some circumstances being unhappy with ourselves, our surroundings, our life. Alternatively, we can start the process of healing by aligning with our truth and start creating the life we want by finding joy and happiness in the everyday
So, what will you first step do you wish to choose today to get you started and why?
The action steps I have taken are:
- Choosing myself;
- Accepted where I was;
- Asked for help;
- The healing and process recovery started;
- Taking each day by working on the small daily actions to my end goal;
- Living in the present.