It’s never too late.
I came across this quote this week from Jay Shetty
“You need to destroy the idea that there’s an expectation to do things by a certain age. You don’t have to be married with kids by 25. It’s okay to not have your dream job at 30 or not to have graduated by 22. There are no rules to life. Life is neither a race, nor a competition”
Then on another day I saw another quote “40 is the new 30”. If I am being honest I had a moment of like “have I left it too late to make my dreams reality?”
Society makes us believe that we have to do X by Y and that we if don’t have it all figured out by a certain age then we are seen as failures. What happens though if “the way everyone thinks it should be” does not work for you? You are made to feel like it is too late, or you have missed the boat. This can either make you think there is no point in trying or on the flip side think no I am going to plan and fulfil my dream. The truth is we all have our own time plan.
I have always had this “dream” to be more than my day job to make a difference in some way I also knew that I wanted to help people. After losing 5 stone I thought I had found my path by becoming a personal trainer. I completed part of the course however, I had this overwhelming feeling of not being good enough and I allowed self-doubt to end that particular route.
I have learnt so much about myself over the last few years from my financial issues and mental health. It has given me an appreciation of who I am really am but also that my past does not define me but has been a series of lessons. It showed me to stop seeking perfection from material objects and being a people pleaser. I have found true happiness in the perfectly imperfect moments. It has given me the opportunity to reconnect with myself and see what skills and abilities I do have.
I now understand that all the experiences I have been through have bought me to where I am today. I feel I had to shed my skin and start over again in so many aspects of my life. I chose to fully embrace myself the good, the bad and the indifferent. It started the day I said, “I am going to live my best life”.
“The best life” will look different for everyone, personally for me it is where I feel whole in a happy and fulfilled way. I want to show people that they can too, achieve the calmness, happiness, and be in good health emotionally, physically and spiritually.
So, yes, I may have been taken longer route, but I am secure in the knowledge that I know my purpose, that I will help others and create an impact in this beautiful world. I am exactly where I need to be to start my next chapter.