Not all those who wander are lost
Last week I celebrated my 40thbirthday with family and friends. I could not believe the amount, of friends who told me how inspiring my journey has been to them and that they are sharing, it with their friends too which truly warms my heart! They told me to keep doing what I am doing.
So, let’s rewind a little to the few months leading up to my birthday. To be honest I got the jitters, I was feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. I thought life has not exactly turned out the way I had thought it would. I thought that I would have it all figured out by now with my own family, a house and so on.
The truth is up until a couple of years ago I didn’t know where my passion lay. I had always had this restless within me. Instead of spending time reflecting and working out what these feelings were trying to tell me I let them go. I had spent the majority of my life following the crowd and being a people pleaser. I gave my all to helping the people around me to succeed in business and life. Here is a link to a blog I wrote about it https://powerof3healthandwellbeing.com/people-pleasing-almost-broke-me/
When it came to my turn, I was told that I would never make it. My ideas were not good enough and they were too big. That I was not the type to run a team or own a business. I was told just stay at what you are good at which for me was the usual 9-5.
I think that we all get to a place in our lives when we actually stop to look around. We start to focus on what we would really like to do with our lives (unless you are living the dream and have the career that you love, and I am honestly happy for you!)
We look at our relationships with family, friends and others and see if they are drains or radiators which light you up.
Life has taken me down a few unexpected roads due to my own choices. One thing I know for sure is that no one has their shit together (even if their Instagram feed tries to say/look different). Just remember perfection does not exist and we are all winging it.
As we grow up, we learn to conform to expectations held by others and the world around us. We are taught from an early age through our parents, peers and stories that when we grow up that we need to have a good job, buy a house, have our own families and so much more. As a society we strive to gain as many objects as we can and are always trying to outdo each other.
Trust me I know what is like to conform and think that life is about having the perfect X. My own experience led me to losing everything and hitting rock bottom. At the time I thought I would never get through it. With the support and love of my family, friends and me doing the work I did get back up.
What it taught me was that I had neglected to get to know myself, that I did not believe in myself. I was too concerned about what others thought or were doing. I made myself small and I thought I was not good enough to show up and my body’s way of coping was through anxiety and depression. I will be forever grateful for that experience and J.K Rowling said it perfectly “Rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life”. You can read my experience by clicking here https://powerof3healthandwellbeing.com/hitting-rock-bottom/
As we get older, we stop caring so much about what others think. Many of us get in touch with our inner wisdom. We become curious about ourselves and the world. We start projects, we may even go back to learning. We tend not to take ourselves so seriously and smile and laugh more.
You spend time doing more of the things you love and that looks different for each of us. For me it is writing, reading, exploring the big outdoors and yoga to name but a few.
We connect back to our SELF and it is the most magnificent and rewarding journey you will ever go on and once you start you will never look back.
Until next time